In the beginning…

I started in the NYC BDSM scene in 2017 upon unearthing a latex fetish I hadn’t realized existed all along. At the time, I was experimenting with materials that simulate the feeling of skin and designing garments that explored the way the wearer may approach both physical space and the metaphysical space within themselves. When I’m not Domming, I hand make latex garments, working with multiple companies and creating custom pieces for my own individual clients; to this day, I cite the latex community as having introduced me to the joys, wonders, and perversions of the BDSM community.

On creativity:

Having fashion design as part of my background and practice it’s no surprise that creativity, play, and exploration are central tenets of My Domination style. After all, I’ve found approaching BDSM in this way is the most fun and engaging way of entering an otherwise intimidating space.

On Old guard vs. New Guard:

Strangely perhaps for budding Dommes in today’s culture, I trained in Old Guard BDSM, which places an emphasis on mentorship and extreme High Protocol, discipline, and rule-following (to learn more visit https://www.fetish.com/magazine/bdsm/what-is-old-guard/). I’m also a lifelong practitioner of yoga and meditation and no stranger to New Age perspectives on life. That being said, I’m always committed to safe, sane, and consensual play. Approaching play with these two modalities, I bring to sessions and encounters a unique mix of Old Guard experience and New Guard knowledge that’s rare to encounter in a young person in the scene today. Blending Old Guard ideology with New Guard practices (and, at times, vice versa) allows me to:

1.      navigate the messiness of your being versus seeing it and wanting to avoid it,

2.      not oversimplify you, knowing and understanding that you contain nuance,

3.      have implicit understanding (which is difficult to communicate, albeit perhaps more “magical” once communicated successfully) versus needing explicit explanations (after all, no one will be able to know you better than I will),

4.      recognize hyper intentionality as unsustainable,

5.      be skeptical about what you think can work (except what I want to try — within the range of your consent, of course),

6.      enter network creation mode (e.g. create new neural networks, rewire your concept of connection) within your being and explore vulnerability’s capacity to forge new paths of human connection.

All in all, I view BDSM as an extremely nuanced somatic practice, requiring trust, patience, true acknowledgment, and care. Whether you’re looking for a light, fun roleplay, a way of uncovering your desires, or a beating to take you to the farthest regions of the human experience, I’m ready and fully equipped to be your enthusiastic guide.